This week, I went to a routine doctor’s appointment. While I waited to be called, a woman sat across from me reading a ‘how to please your man in bed’ article from a women’s magazine to her friend, who was sitting next to her. It was loud enough, it was impossible for anyone in the waiting room to ignore.

Heh. Yes, it did speak of ways to touch your “guy” (LOL – I can’t imagine why a guy would want chocolate sauce poured on his chest, unless he were to shave it first), but one thing that caught my attention was the number of times that it said things like, “really get into it”, “pretend like you’re enjoying yourself, even if you’re not” “even if you are uncomfortable, just act like you’re having a great time.”

What is sad about many women’s magazines and articles about relationships and, yes, even the physical aspects of them, is that they seldom start with the premise that you are actually in love with your “guy”. (Sadly, many women’s magazines refrain from using taboo words like “spouse” or “husband” because they don’t want to exclude those who are involved in extramarital relationships.)

If you and your husband love each other, why would you have to ‘pretend’ to enjoy yourself – or lie about liking something you’re not at all comfortable doing? Sure, there is a place for putting the needs of your spouse above your own and being generous husbands and wives. But, what about being honest with each other? How can anyone truly learn to please their spouse – in all aspects of life – if everything is about faking happiness?